Part I: Stars Align
As I write this, I’m sitting out on our beautiful screened porch under the mighty oak and maple trees with our little baby girl fast asleep on the couch beside me. A whirlwind of a romance has brought us here and I guess it all started while I was traveling through Europe at the age of 22. Looking back now I see myself so young and carefree running from country to country absorbing every amazing experience and connecting with brilliant people from all over the world. It was during this trip I met a guy from a small town in North Dakota and we became great friends. Our friendship lasted over the years as we would share music, talk about life and update each other on where our stories were taking us. His story landed him in California where he moved in with a group of guys and one of those guys happened to be Bradley. He would tell me all the time how one of his roommates (Brad) grew up in the area of Michigan I was currently living, I never thought much about this except to think, “how cool, what a small world.”
It was during this time I started doing a lot of spiritual work on myself. I was recovering from adrenal fatigue and lyme disease, living on my own in a small apartment on the river and running my own design business. It was then I discovered the immense healing power of meditation and started reading books by Thich Nhat Hanh and books about Buddhism. I would scour the local library and come home with three books at a time and devour them in my little garden level den. I’ve always been a writer and have piles of black hardbound notebooks filled with sketches, poems, stories and thoughts, and this was a time of extensive journaling for me. I remember writing one day about what my future soulmate would be like, I even wrote about the honey colored wood floors of the house we would live in, about his presence and how I would feel when I was around him. Little did I know I was about to meet this man in the most unsuspecting of ways.
Bradley had decided to move back to Michigan to start his Architectural firm and my friend from North Dakota would bug me all the time to meet up with his California roommate and I would blow it off because who was this random guy who happened to live near me now anyway? Many months went by with my friend asking if I’ve reached out to Brad or if he's reached out to me when finally sometime in May I got a text. Brad’s firm was working on a rooftop design in Detroit and needed a Landscape Architect, which I happen to be, so we made plans to meet up for a drink and talk about the project.
I pulled up to the restaurant a few minutes late, which for me is right on time, and as I’m walking in I realize I didn’t have the slightest clue what this man looked like but as I opened the door and saw him standing there next to the hostess stand there wasn’t a doubt in my mind. “Bradley!” I said with a smile. He had the most calming energy I’ve ever been around and the kindest green eyes. We talked effortlessly for hours, barely about the project but just enough. I opened up to him about wanting to start something new and change my life’s path which might entail moving to Chicago or back home with my parents across to the other side of the state. He could tell I was torn on this decision and casually mentioned his need for a roommate in the three bedroom house he just rented. I took a mental note and we carried on our evening full of conversation and connection. Our like-minded impulsive nature came up sometime later in the evening when we booked a trip to New York to visit our mutual friend from North Dakota because he had just moved there and we both love the city. The evening had come to an end and as we were standing out on the street in front of the restaurant I gave him a big hug; he felt like home to me and it felt like I had just met my new best friend.
The next day as I was cleaning through my apartment I decided I no longer wanted to live there and as my rent was on a month by month basis I decided to send a text to Brad “still looking for a roommate?”